Avoid Intentional Hurting
Breaking up is hard to do; the song doesn't lie. But if you are the one initiating the break-up, there are some things you can do (and not do) that can make the break-up as painless as possible. First, remember your soon-to-be former partner has given you a part of his or her life. Honor your history together by not criticizing him or her at the critical moment. In most instances, breaking up is your issue, not theirs. If they ask you why you are breaking up with them, be honest but tactful. If the shoe is on the other foot and you are the one being let go, respect your partner's decision.
Getting Over The Hurt
I remember being told that the person I was seriously dating didn?t want to see me anymore. I remember the pain. It hurt so bad, I was sick to my stomach. I didn?t want to get out of bed; I just wanted to cry and cry. My family said, "In time, your feelings will change." I didn't want to hear that; you may not either...yet. Only with time will you be able to deal with the pain. Soon you will realize that you need to move on; that you are a good person; and that the person who broke up with you made a choice. You can make your own choices, too...in time.
Breaking Up Without Going To Pieces
In the article, "Breaking up without going to pieces," author Gawain Wells discusses strategies for dealing with a breaking up. To successfuly move on, he suggests: 1) Don?t have a pity party. It is okay to feel bad, but an extended pity party can turn into depression.2) Be grateful that you aren?t going to be dating someone who doesn?t want to date you anymore. 3) Figure out a game plan for moving on. 4) Be confident. Learn from your mistake and course correct so it doesn?t happen again.5) Learn from every dating experience. Constantly self-evaluate and learn to break bad patterns.
Honesty
If you are planning to break up a dating relationship, know that you are probably going to hurt that person. Most people are afraid to tell the person they are dating that it has to end; however, if you can be honest with them as soon as you know your true feelings, you both can avoid additional pain. In the end, your former partner will respect your honesty. That being said, being honest does not mean being cruel. When you explain why you feel the relationship has to end, remember your history together and temper your words rather than say something harsh you may regret.
What Are Your Instincts Telling You?
Is this relationship right for you? How can you tell? Listen to your inner voice; it usually speaks the truth. If you feel happy and confident most of the time, chances are the relationship is working for you. If you constantly feeling annoyed, depressed or put down, then it?s time to do something about it. Talk to your partner, seek counseling or move on. Remember, if you don't feel good about yourself in the relationship, then the relationship isn't the one for you.